Unequally Yoked: A Catholic Marries an Agnostic (Part III)

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***This is the final post of a three-part series chronicling the spiritual journey of our marriage. Born and raised a devout Catholic, I didn’t take my faith as seriously in college and began dating a pro-choice agnostic. This is the story of how we balanced the yoke. If you’ve ever wondered if a Catholic can marry an agnostic without compromising the Catholic’s faith, read on. Our story may help you discern whether a marriage of “mixed cult,” or between a baptized and unbaptized party, is a good idea.

Read Part I and Part II to get up to speed!

Well, we got pregnant again, and I suffered a temporary setback. I remember throwing my pregnancy test against the wall, and yelling that I just couldn’t do this.   I literally threw temper tantrum while my five month old slept soundly.  My husband just stared at me – I have a feeling he was trying to figure out how my hissy fit factored into my Catholic belief of being “open to life” and babies being a blessing.  Though he was happy about a new baby, he announced that he would be getting a vasectomy (he announced that he was seriously considering a vasectomy).  I was crushed.  I knew this was against God’s plan for our marriage, and that it would only cause more heartache in the long run.  I also remembered thinking maybe, just maybe, I should get some formal instruction in this NFP thing, because clearly I wasn’t getting something right.  I decided right then that every prayer and every bit of suffering of the next nine months would be offered for Superman to change his mind about his vasectomy.  I began to pray and open my heart to God in ways I never had before.  I began to ask for His will to be done, not my own.

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Unequally Yoked: A Catholic Marries an Agnostic (Part I)

***This is the first of a three-part post chronicling the spiritual journey of our marriage. Born and raised a devout Catholic, I didn’t take my faith as seriously in college and began dating a pro-choice agnostic. This is the story of how we balanced the yoke. If you’ve ever wondered if a Catholic can marry an agnostic without compromising the Catholic’s faith, read on. Our story may help you discern whether a marriage of “mixed cult,” or between a baptized and unbaptized party, is a good idea.

I was born in New Orleans, Louisiana, the first of my parents’ six children.  My dad worked as an engineer, and my mom was a stay-at-home mom.  My parents were cradle Catholics, married in the Church, and all six of us were baptized as babies.  My dad had attended 12 years of Catholic school, and was well-formed in his faith.  Though Catholic, my Mom’s family stopped attending Mass when she was a teenager.  As she got older and without a supportive foundation at home, Mom fell away from the Church.  My Daddy always went to Mass, even when he was sick.  Momma chose to attend a Protestant church, and my brother and I always chose to go to church with her.  It was more fun, after all.  The preacher sent the kids to “children’s church,” where we got grape juice, goldfish crackers, and talked about God.  It was SOOOO much more fun than Daddy’s “boring” church!

When I was in third grade, my dad invited me to attend First Friday devotions with him at his parish.  I will never forget those special nights with him.  We attended Adoration and Benediction together, and I was mesmerized by the incense, the chanted prayers, the Latin, and the solemnness of this type of prayer. Even though Dad’s church was “boring,” those Friday nights really stirred my soul.  Looking at the Blessed Sacrament in the beautiful Monstrance, I was transfixed.  I didn’t know it yet, but I was falling in love with Jesus.

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8 Lessons in 8 Years – Learning Lessons in Love

In honor of World Marriage week 2016, I’m re-sharing this post from the archives. When you’re finished reading, please check out the other lovely reflections on marriage at the Catholic Mommy Blogs Marriage linkup!

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Linking up this beautiful St. Valentine’s Day with the lovely Mary of Better Than Eden, sharing eight of the {many, many, many} lessons about love I’ve learned in the eight years of our marriage.

http://www.betterthaneden.com/2015/02/learning-love-lesson-year-in-marriage.html

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7 Quick Takes — NFP, 10000 steps, and St. Anne [vol. 5]


Gained a few more readers this week — welcome to our little sharing space!  As I do every Friday, I’m jotting down seven little things that have been on my mind and/or things I’d like to share with y’all.  If you blog, be sure to join the linkup over at Conversion Diary!  If you don’t blog, visit Conversion Diary anyway and enjoy other bloggers’ 7QT!

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Next week, July 20-26, is NFP Awareness Week!  What are you doing to celebrate?  Not sure how to get involved?  The USCCB has some great ideas here.  I actually printed this reflection on Humanae Vitae out and gave it to a coworker this week when I was asked why Catholics “don’t believe in birth control.”  It took a lot of courage, and I mayormaynot have left it on her desk and ran, but I did it!  People are curious, and we never have a shortage of opportunities to share this beautiful teaching of the Faith.  There are also some great NFP resources and fun stuff at iusenfp.  Join the Revolution!

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In April of this year, I made a commitment to myself that I would set a goal to lose 100 pounds by my 30th birthday.  My reasons to lose weight are myriad, but the #1 motivation is to get healthy.  I call this endeavor my #100by30 campaign.  So far, I’m 14 pounds lighter.  Pray for me, please, that I might persevere?

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For my birthday, my parents gave me a Fitbit Flex to help me reach my #100by30 goal.  Since I work in an office with very little opportunity in my schedule or physical space to do much walking, my work days are mostly sedenetary.  Enter my FitBit and the daunting challenge of meeting my pre-determined goal of 10,000 steps a day.  It wasn’t until I strapped the contraption on my wrist that I realized just how sedentary my daily life is.  So, though I’ve had the FitBit for six weeks now, and through a long process of trying to add steps in every part of my day when possible, I reached my 10k step goal not once, but TWICE this week.  I am thrilled!  Several coworkers have FitBits, too, so we all do a great job of keeping each other accountable.  If you’re interested and want to know more about the FitBit, Elizabeth wrote a great post with plenty of details that should answer a lot of your questions.

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I also started the Couch to 5k running program this week, with the hopes of running in my first 5k with my aunt this November.  I completed Workout 1 yesterday.  The creators of the program say it will take the average person 9 weeks to train — I’m going out on a limb and saying it will take me at least 11 😉  So excited!

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Thanks in part to the software interface of the FitBit, I’ve been keeping better track of my water intake each day.  As it turns out, I was not drinking near what I should have been, and I’ve improved a lot in this area since becoming I was there I was basically perpetually dehydrated.  One of the things that has helped?  Drinking water through a straw.  A few years ago, I noticed that I drink beverages much faster if I have a straw in them than if there was no straw.  So, I make sure that when drinking water, I have a straw, even if I have to stick one in a water bottle.  I told a coworker about it and she tried it, and she discovered this was true for her as well.  I’m interested in your feedback on this – do you drink a great quantity of beverages, or drink them faster, if you drink them through a straw?

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At the Instagrammed suggestion of Cate over at Dainty Cate, I have begun downloading and thoroughly enjoying the Read Aloud Revival podcasts about the benefits and importance of reading aloud to your children.  Sarah McKenzie of Amongst Lovely Things is doing an amazing job of bringing in guest speakers that really inspire and motivate those parents who might be a bit hesitant to read aloud, and she examines topics that will help you and your child become more engaged in your reading time together.  You don’t have to be a parent to learn something here – grandparents, aunts and uncles, cousins, friends, neighbors – anyone with a child in their lives will learn a little something.  I am still in the beginning of the series, but can’t wait to get to “Episode 6: How to Teach Your Children Shakespeare.”  As you may recall, this is the “Summer of the Book” at our house, so these podcasts are a welcome enhancement of our reading intensive over the school break.  I encourage you to check out these great recordings and tell me what you think!

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Today is the first day of the St. Anne Novena.  If you’d like to join us, be sure to check out Pray More Novenas and sign up for daily emails that contain each day’s assigned prayers.  In light of the terrible tragedy yesterday when a Malaysian Airlines flight was shot down over Ukraine, will you join me in praying this novena specifically for the souls of the victims and the families they left behind?

 “Eternal rest, grant unto them, O LORD, and may perpetual light shone upon them.  And may the souls of the faithful departed, through the mercy of God, rest in peace.”

Have a safe weekend!

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