Boomers, We’re Listening. Love, Millennials

The more I experience life as a wife, mother, sister, friend, and professional, the more I realize I’m clueless. Really clueless. As in, everything I thought I knew – and I thought I knew a lot – is challenged on a daily basis and I rediscover, for the umpteenth time, that when it comes to life experience, I’m a noob.

Growing up, I was the kid that wanted to sit with the adults and talk while my cousins rolled down hillsides and played with bubbles outside. I’ve long preferred the company of older, wiser adults to the company of peers. Even as an adult, I gravitate towards reading blogs and following social media streams of wives and moms who are older than me and further along their paths of marriage and family. I love to see their challenges and learn how they have grown from them, emotionally and spiritually. To see how they have navigated life crises and struggles, and hopefully learn from them as I encounter similiar waters in the not-so-distant future.

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That Time I Chose Life

Today is the 42nd anniversary of the landmark Roe v Wade Supreme Court decision, which made abortion legal in all 50 states.  My sister marches today with her Ave Maria University friends in the March for Life in Washington DC.  By the grace of God, my brother was born on this day 15 years after the decision.  Though it haunts him that he was allowed to live when tens of millions never were, our family is grateful for his life.  We remind him annually that he is a testament to the beauty and the sacredness of human life.  What follows is my own experience with a crisis pregnancy.  

That Time I Chose Life

My first experience in the pro-life movement was entering an essay contest in elementary school.  The topic was “Why I am Pro-Life,” and I had to go home and ask my mom what that meant.  I knew about the birds and the bees.  I did NOT know that our country sanctioned the killing of innocent babies every year.  When I learned the truth, I was horrified.  As I got older, I began attending the Pro-Life rally each year at the Capitol in Austin, and getting my local Junior Catholic Daughters court involved in the Life Chain events in Houston.  I attended the Human Life International conference when it came to Houston in 1998, and met pro-life hero Joan Andrews Bell (and got her autograph!)  I was passionately Pro-Life, and couldn’t imagine how anyone could ever kill their child.  When you’re 12, naive, and have no idea of the harsh realities of single parenting, teenage pregnancy, financial woes, or an abusive partner, you literally cannot fathom how a woman could feel so hopeless.   I prayed for abortionists, and I prayed for the moms of babies that felt they had no choice but to abort their children.  I studied Church teaching about sex and contraception, and vowed to not lose my virginity until my wedding night.  As my good friend went through her high school years and started seeing girls around her become sexually active, I steeled my will to save myself for my future husband.  I believed very strongly in the beauty of God’s plan for marriage, and that “The temple of God, which you are, is holy.” (1 Corinthians 3:17)  I began praying for my future spouse, whomever he might be, that he would feel God’s grace in his life and be safe and grow in God’s love.  I made a list of qualities I wanted in a husband, and decided I wouldn’t date anyone who didn’t meet the basic requirements: he had to be Catholic, pro-life, and be opposed to artificial birth control.  I didn’t want to waste my time with anyone who didn’t have these characteristics.

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